本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛We had friends coming and first few months lived with us. We helped them a lot, always drove them for shopping, school and government office. But later we found they began to depend on us and expected more. They eating with us, funny thing is they even complain food is not delicious. (I told my husband they are not ready for the new life) We are both working and have our littler boy and aged parents, we cannot keep accompany them anywhere. But we felt difficult to let them understand. You see, when I came, just myself. Though I have classmate coming before me. I only asked him to help rent a room and pick me up from airport. The next day I walked alone to do SIN and Internet connection. Because I thought it would help me to know the new world better and learn more. For two months I never take bus, only for interview. I walked to some Chinese computer school for free forum and for job information. I also walked to Human Resource Center and Library. All those information I found by myself. But now we keep telling them everything. And I don’t think they will be appreciated. Because they are so proud and self confident. They always tell me how easy and comfortable their life has been in China. I said never think about that, if so go back and enjoy. So my experience tell me, help others but not get involved. Always keep some distance.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net