我家孩子将来肯定得熟练掌握中文,尽量向母语水平靠拢,并尽可能了解当代中国人的思维方式和文化背景。这个是根,和肤色一样,与生俱来,不可否认,无法摆脱。有人问我哪的人,我向来就一句CHINESE,我从不说“Originally from China"这种政治正确的鬼话。我刚来的那阵,有些老外(尤其在米国)恭维人的模板就是,“oh, you don't look like Chinese. Get out there. You can't be Chinese. I thought you were Korean or Japanese", 这个跟外地人恭维上海人的终极赞美同理,”您真不像上海人“。现在,这种骂人的“恭维”越来越少,说明时代进步了,人开明了,与时俱进吧