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饺子行乐人生(一) 把握现时(present)

dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子)

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛想写这个题目已经很久，但是直到现在落笔还是不清楚自己是否有能力把握这个话题。暂且把这三年零散的想法记录下来。

及时行乐，早已经被我们批驳的体无完肤，更被我们用来批判西方世界观的颓废，呵呵，想不到却成了我的人生观。(注意, 翻成英文是: HAVE FUN NOW!)

strategic management的教授给我们讲授什么叫vision。他问大家，你想在你的墓志铭上写下一句什么话，那就是你的人生的vision。我想到了下面的三句话

此人为了人类的进步做出了极大的贡献

此人作为成功的商业奇才，累计了巨大的财富，拥有。。。

She had a happy and rich life on earth.

这三句话分别代表了我的人生的三个阶段。第一句是我的中学时代，十几岁时我的梦想是成为象爱因斯坦那样伟大的科学家，为人类的进步写下我的篇章。第二句代表我二十几岁的理想，赚很多很多的钱，让我的家人过上最好的生活。第三句则是我现在的心态。

经过了不懈的努力，我真的在过快乐而又丰富多采的生活。

我和另一好友几乎前后脚移民到加拿大，她去了多伦多，我则到了温哥华。她一到埠，马上把家安置起来，买了所有家具，车，也花掉了带来的大部份钱。她预计很快会找到工作，却不想三个月过去没有一点迹象，经济上的压力很大。而我则很保守，除了一个临时的很便宜的床几乎什么都没有添置。当然她在第四个月时找到了一份年薪很高的工作，我也在第三个月找到了工作(她比我早来一个月, 我们几乎同时开始工作)。后来我到她家里玩，说起这段经历，我说你当时真不该这么大手大脚的花钱；她说，我和你不一样，走到哪里，我都要把家安置的象个家的样子。日子是过一天少一天，绝对不能对付。我无言以对。这是我第一次意识到什么是“现时”。

尽管重新开始，我可能仍然十分保守，但我不得不承认她说的很有道理。人生开始于“现时” ，不是过去也不是将来。常听自己这样说，等我找到工作，等我赚更多的钱，等我找到伴侣，等我。。。在这样的等待中，人生从我的指缝间流逝。。。

也许年过三十后，就有了前所未有的紧迫感。不再象十几岁时盼望长大，以挣脱父母的约束；也不象二十几岁，急于功成名就；三十岁是个转折点，让我不得不问自己到底想要一个什么样的生活，我还有另外的十年人生去等待吗？

“现时” 是很难把握的。过去，可以回顾；未来，可以展望；可“现时” 却在静静地流逝。有一天，我终于“抓住” 了“现时” 。自从上次从Yoga Retreat回来，真的爱上了它。一系列的伸展练习之后，最后是relaxation。过去不大喜欢这一步，因为我无法控制身心，让其彻底地放松。而现在，去除杂念后，进入了一种空明澄静的状态；睁开眼睛，我看到了“现时” ，真切地体会到它的存在，望着窗外，“现时” 是那随风摇动的树枝，是那唧唧歌唱的小鸟，是空气中些许的海腥味道，是我心中淡淡的喜悦。。。

是的，这就是“现时” 。我的快乐从这时开始。。。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

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Last Updated: 2002-4-3

是的，有时候总想着要搬家了，不要买床头柜了吧。。。结果每个地方都要住个2，3年，床头还是当初的两个纸箱子。。。 -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-4-3 (#433692@0)

还是心里没底。 -zhu(猪头,LP IS COMING!); 2002-4-3 (#433704@0)

对阿，对未来的定居点是没有底。 -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-4-3 (#433710@0)

？？你不象这人呀。象我这样及时行乐的，结果就是抗着一大堆东西，搬家若干次。 -bluegreysky(㊣Protegé5); 2002-4-3 (#433778@0)

我绝对不是那种及时行乐的，不过正在努力ing。。。快通关啦！ -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-4-3 (#433875@0)

有些感覺是愉快的，有是不愉快的。當你看清感覺都是無常的時候，就不會被它們所干擾。你說：「別打破我的杯子！」你能夠阻止會破碎的東西不破嗎？ -new.honda(honda); 2002-4-3 {703} (#434685@0)
有些感覺是愉快的，有是不愉快的。當你看清感覺都是無常的時候，就不會被它們所干擾。你說：「別打破我的杯子！」你能夠阻止會破碎的東西不破嗎？如果它現在沒有破，它未來也會破；如果你不去打破它，別人也許會；可是，通常人們會說：「我很喜歡這個杯子，希望它永遠不會破。」後來狗把它打破了，「我要殺了那隻瘋狗！」你恨那隻狗打碎你的杯子。刀子有刀鋒、刀背和刀柄。你可以只拿起刀鋒嗎？或只拿起刀背或刀柄？刀柄、刀背和刀鋒這些部位都在同一把刀上；當你拿起刀時，這三個部份都同時被一齊拿起。同樣的道理，如果你取樂，苦必隨至。我們應該瞭解它們，並知道如何放下它們。如此一來，我們便可以安住於平靜。利用這個杯子，好好照顧它，直到有一天它從你手中脫掉．．．「碎了」，沒事。為什麼沒事呢？因為在它還沒破碎之前，你已看到它碎了。

察见渊鱼者不祥 -jamesolo(jamesolo); 2002-4-11 (#451534@0)

Me too. 每次搬迁，甚至想把房子也一起搬。 -fionah(deadlock); 2002-4-3 (#433919@0)

这主意好，以后买个葛优那样的拖车，脱着我的房子走算了。 -bluegreysky(㊣Protegé5); 2002-4-3 (#433950@0)

//hand -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#433841@0)

所以要尽快改掉，快！买全套家具去！！ -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-4-3 (#433886@0)

定ed. 后悔ing -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#433894@0)
而且要买自己可以买得起的、最喜欢的家具。BTW，我现在最想要的一件家具是：Friends里Ross家里的那张沙发，很好看，皮质很好、很舒服的样子。Dreaming........ -fionah(deadlock); 2002-4-3 (#433925@0)

对我来说买个家才最重要，现在的地方早塞满啦。 -bluegreysky(㊣Protegé5); 2002-4-3 (#433954@0)

房子是最难搬走的。我试过一次了，所以这次要谨慎了。 -fionah(deadlock); 2002-4-3 (#434035@0)

我看咱们最需要的就是钱，要是有了它，我就什么都不搬了。 -bluegreysky(㊣Protegé5); 2002-4-3 (#434055@0)

有些东西是有钱也不一定能再买到的。比如我的毛公仔，海运的时候我都极舍不得，怕真有个意外，就再也见不到它了。 -fionah(deadlock); 2002-4-4 (#435059@0)

YOGA是不是佛教的派生啊？ -zhu(猪头,LP IS COMING!); 2002-4-3 (#433700@0)

不是。YOGA来自印度，应该跟印度教有关。佛教起源于印度，但主要发展在印度之外。 -rollor(Rollor); 2002-4-3 (#433708@0)

但是我感觉她的描述像是佛教的修行。您应该比较了解了。 -zhu(猪头,LP IS COMING!); 2002-4-3 (#433712@0)

乎兮恍兮，难道不象道教？ -rollor(Rollor); 2002-4-3 (#433723@0)

呵呵，我很无知了。记得看过一本佛教的初级读物，讲修行的最高境界就是什么都不想的时间无限长。不知说的是否准确。 -zhu(猪头,LP IS COMING!); 2002-4-3 (#433737@0)

“初级读物讲修行的最高境界”？那肯定是错的 -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#433835@0)
这可能是对最高境界的最初级理解。所谓“涅磐”，即脱离生老病死的轮回，没有快乐，没有悲伤，没有时间，没有空间，可以理解为一种“什么都不想的时间无限长”。 -rollor(Rollor); 2002-4-3 (#433891@0)

YOGA有很多种, 我不了解佛教. 我只是用来锻炼身体, 解决了我的呼吸问题(气短), 身体柔韧性增强, 还有...嘻嘻, 对控制体重有效果, 再则, 容易集中精神... -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#433715@0)
I used to post part of a novel about a yoga guru but nobody read it. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#433872@0)

I read it, and had a sort of fight with you (if my remember is right) :) haha -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#433932@0)

Yeah I remember that ... anyway, I'll put it up on a web site instead of posting here -- I just posted a very small portion of it. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#433943@0)

你贴的那篇YOGA在什么地方, 可否翻出来? ? -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#433942@0)

OK, I've put it up on my web site. I believe there are a lot of photoes missing, like Mahatma Gandhi (?) and Sri Aurobindo (?). I will scan them in and put it up when I have time. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#434013@0)

Thanks! GANDHI是我的偶像 -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#434024@0)

Gandhi is my idol too. Being both a hero and a saint at the same time is a very hard thing to do IMHO. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#434038@0)

我一直在寻找HAPINESS, 直到我读到关于他的一本书, 我发现答案都写在里面. 一个人怎么可以这样的COURAGEOUS, ENLIGHTENING, 完全超越了时代... -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#434060@0)

Cool. Books like this are much cheaper but they are invaluable. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#434077@0)

现实很重要，过去和将来也很重要。人与其它动物的区别，就在于人可以沉醉在对过去的回忆和对将来的展望上，并把过去和将来贯穿到现时当中。没有过去，哪有现在？没有现在，将来又有什么意义？ -rollor(Rollor); 2002-4-3 (#433718@0)

在理儿！ -mike2000(风筝); 2002-4-3 (#433744@0)
以前受的教育说及时行乐是很腐朽的，现在才觉得这是最重要。人生苦短啊。 -damon(坐看云起); 2002-4-4 (#435044@0)

Just a thought -hi_buddy(Buddy); 2002-4-3 {350} (#433823@0)

Every penny you spent is earned yesterday, every penny you make is for tomorrow. I wish you make much more money than you spent, otherwise you don't need any bank account.

Not only the money, I think everything is like this.

My point is it's all about balance. If your balance is positive, you are happy, otherwise you know how you feel.

good point! -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#433849@0)

饺子曰：过去不可得，将来不可得 -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 {64} (#433840@0)

佛曰：过去、现在、将来三不可得。

所以饺子是饺子，佛是佛。：）

妙! -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#433851@0)

Different people, different thinking, different definiens. If you can control yourself, you can always “抓住现时" without Yoga Retreat, you still feel good even you are having hard time. -crossover_tape(萧峰-侠之大者); 2002-4-3 (#433865@0)

"If you can control yourself, ..." -- easy to say, very very hard to do. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#433882@0)

Depends on the person. Depends on your life experience. It's -crossover_tape(萧峰-侠之大者); 2002-4-3 {252} (#433946@0)
not easy to say, not very very hard to do. I think the most important thing is keep your goal all the time and try best, you still feel good even you couldn't get it. Doesn't matter anybody else, just follow yourself. Different people different way.

I know what you're saying but what I mean is different. To me, having control of oneself means having control of one's mind, and that's the hardest part. If you don't believe me, -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 {98} (#434027@0)
try sitting there and try not to think about anything for one hour, then you'll know what I mean.

我可不奢望一个小时, 15秒就行, 呵呵... -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 (#434031@0)

If one can do that for an hour, he'll be deep in samadhi. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#434045@0)

Doesn't matter what you think. I did that when I was 17 years old. That was not good feeling. I don't want to do that again, the feeling was like death after doing that. That is not great thing. -crossover_tape(萧峰-侠之大者); 2002-4-3 (#434149@0)

different people different ways -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#434151@0)
How did you know that was the feeling of death? Have you experienced death (or near death)? A lot of people that had near death experience have the exact opposite conclusion. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#434198@0)

Whatever. -crossover_tape(萧峰-侠之大者); 2002-4-3 (#434291@0)

mission impossible 3 -yellow(yellow); 2002-4-3 (#434078@0)

If you practice yoga, you'll have a much better chance converting yourself to vegitarian. That's why I didn't post any veggie recepe for you. -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-3 (#433866@0)

中国人一般挣一块钱留5毛以备不测，有几人能象老外抖光积累住大房、开好车？即使那样了，如果成天提心吊胆也不快乐。其实即时行乐还是有所限度好点，心里的坦然、宁静、满足才是真正的快乐。 -dayafterday(悠悠我心); 2002-4-3 {44} (#434006@0)

如有“千金散尽还复来”的气迫，倒也不妨试一试

我觉得进步就在于原来要留5毛钱，现在只留2毛钱了。 -luoboyang(萝卜秧); 2002-4-3 (#434019@0)

其实不用为花钱而花钱，为省钱而省钱，看须要。现在我倒是为花钱而头疼，大宗的，想每个子都花在刀刃上，接果，房难买，车难买...但说到底，也还是钱太少，来这一年多了，还没凑够一百万，没法潇洒 -dayafterday(悠悠我心); 2002-4-3 (#434047@0)

老外有养老保着，我没有啊。几千年都是，一时转不过来啊！ -buhello(happy your life); 2002-4-3 (#434058@0)
即时行乐和把握现时好像不是一回事儿。 -dennis2(Dennis); 2002-4-11 (#450659@0)

饺子，我挖出一片以前看见过的文章，你一定会喜欢的。共勉。 -winterblue(winterblue); 2002-4-3 (#434553@0)

MANY THANKS! 我很喜欢, 语言简单却很美丽...共勉共勉! -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-3 {950} (#434569@0)
....

"Sooner or later, however, we must realize there is no station in this life, no one earthly place to arrive at once and for all. The journey is the joy. The station is an illusion--it constantly outdistances us. Yesterday's a memory, tomorrow's a dream. Yesterday belongs to history, tomorrow belongs to God. Yesterday's a fading sunset. Only today is there light enough to love and live.

So, gently close the door on yesterday and then throw the key away. It isn't the burdens of today that drive men mad, but rather the regret over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow."

......

So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead swim more rivers, climb more mountains, kiss more babies, count more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along."

-------FROM The Station
By Bob Hastings

I like yoga too, pls ask where you went to the yoga retreat -ivyschool(sportgirl); 2002-4-3 (#434707@0)

Here... -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-4 (#435317@0)

Good point! It sounds like a slogan. However, I prefer "balanced, planed life". -alan01(alan01); 2002-4-4 (#436175@0)

最好的时间是现在,最好的地方是这里 -rush2002(Rush); 2002-4-11 (#450784@0)

人的一生有不同的阶段，有道是：“三十而立，四十而不惑，五十而知天命，六十而耳顺，七十而从心所欲不逾矩。”可爱的饺子，你现在处于哪一阶段？ -sss(Liufan); 2002-4-11 (#451156@0)

Same with my age, between 30 to 40. :-)) Established in my own way and I am close to "no confusion" stage as I approach 40. hehe... -dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子); 2002-4-11 (#451418@0)

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