She might be not satisfied.
-cristina(cristina);
2006-6-4{280}(#3010688@0)
My humble opinion, you'd better find an experienced lady , than you may realized what you can improve, or simply you and her are not match . I hate to tell you 99.9% woman never tell their men they are not satisfied. Because women knows how that important is to their men's ego.
doubt it would be more than once, the confession of only one time is asking for your forgiving. she is still lying. --- guess only.
-dividend(bonus);
2006-6-4(#3010760@0)
It is not the same. One time sometime it is really physical, if more than one time, either not satisfied with current partner or falling in love with sb else
-cristina(cristina);
2006-6-4(#3010727@0)
本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛More work needed to move past old affair
Jun. 2, 2006. 01:00 AM
ELLIE
Q: Recently, my 10-year marriage has been turbulent and my wife divulged an affair with a co-worker that happened eight years ago, though previously she'd lied to me that nothing happened. I took it hard.
I left for a short time but came back for the kids' sake and the need to work things out between us. She says she loves me and will do anything to save our marriage.
We did the counselling thing and it worked for a time but nowadays she's a closed book. I still feel hurt that she found comfort in another man's arms. I don't know if I'll ever trust her and if our marriage will survive.
A: Counselling isn't a workshop with a finite end; it's something you go back to, or you find another therapist, if the hurt is still there.
Your wife needs to understand that she is not doing what is needed now, by staying closed on the subject of what happened and why. But disclosure of her actions is best guided by a professional who helps you both understand the past to be able to move forward, if you're willing.
Psychologist Shirley Glass, author of NOT Just Friends: Protect Your Relationship from Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal, has written that "total avoidance (of disclosure) only intensifies alienation caused by the affair."
I particularly like two of her recommendations: that the couple verbally agree to stay in therapy and in the relationship for a specific number of sessions; and that they also attend some individual sessions. There's work to be done to take charge of your future.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
totaly disgreee. Devorce immediately but live together for a couple more months may be a better choice. Then the two will know what to do next.
-ghyll(阿土);
2006-6-6(#3013749@0)
Another simple thing you can do is to make love to her more and more. If you could do three times one night, that will definately help. Trust me.
-cristina(cristina);
2006-6-5{213}(#3012743@0)
Both you may feel a new stage about your love life. She may don't have energy to have sex with other guy, and same time, you can enjoy. after while, you may figure out what are you going to do next about divorce.
If I were you, I'd definitely divorce her no matter how much I was in love with or loved her. Simply because things would never be the same again.
-super_unknown(mailman);
2006-6-7(#3015395@0)
you are right. 狗改不了吃屎
-lost_in_canada(cc);
2006-6-7(#3016174@0)
Many Chinese men do not have a great heart!
-hipacific(crystalblue);
2006-6-28(#3053357@0)
What bollocks! It has nothing to do with great heart, but everything to do with feelings, as simple as that.
-super_unknown(mailman);
2006-7-6(#3065556@0)
That only means you have never really loved her. Stop that 'no matter how much I was in love with or loved her' crap.
-minime(minime);
2006-7-10(#3070990@0)
It's you that was talking BS. Good for you if you have no problem with your partner having adultery. But since when whether to tolerate adultery becomes the criteria for love? Never was and never will be.
-super_unknown(mailman);
2006-7-10(#3071725@0)