think about yourself first, your child second and your husband. When you are truly happy, your child will be happy and maybe your husband (even you choose to leave him)
-dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子);
2001-10-23(#234225@0)
Thank you. Your words are just what he told me! He even thought we can get a new family including my kid and his kid. But as soon as i think of my husband, i feel so guilty.........
-heavenlypalace(heaven);
2001-10-23(#234624@0)
Why not go to Canada and try to live a new life with your husband and child for a period of time?Then you can your next choice.
-jq3yang(糍粑鱼);
2001-10-24(#236167@0)
俺没去加,也没结婚,似乎没法差嘴吧,你不觉得你的问题很象<廊桥遗梦>的情节吗,同样是已经成家了的女主人,同样是一个可以给她带来了梦寐以求的东西的男主角,同样是一个理想与现实冲突的两难处镜,
其实这类问题应该不在少数,不然这部小说如何能引起共鸣,我提到它,并不是我觉得小说里的结局就是好的结局,但你的确是要面临一个选择,也许任何一个选择都会给你将来带来遗憾,外人也不好劝你一定要怎样,只说一句,婚姻也许就和穿鞋子,只有自己的脚知道是否舒服. 早下决定,长痛不如短痛,感情的纠葛是最会折磨人的东西,别让它吞噬你快乐的人生.
good luck for you
-happy_4_7(人参果);
2001-10-24{480}(#236212@0)
离婚不是一件容易的事。我在加拿大，我想过离婚，我的情况比你遭多了。到加拿大来，我认为不会给你的婚姻带来改变，只会恶化。去读一本书one minute for yourself.只有你自己高兴，你才能给别人带来快乐。这不是自私。象孔子说的：老吾老，以及人之老。好好和你的丈夫谈谈，让你的难朋友给你一些时间。给自己一个期限，如果你的婚姻还是没有改变，离开他，去寻找新的幸福。我知道这是很难的事。人们因为不了解而结婚，因为了解太多却不理解而离婚。但是你要有足够的思想准备，下一次婚姻会有新的问题。
-telephone(telephone);
2001-10-25{298}(#237078@0)
Life is a gambling. Do what you are eager to do, and you will not regret even you lose. At least you have tried.
-clinux(C/Linux);
2001-10-24(#235515@0)
Although what I have said seems to encourage you to get devorced, I think that you should take the responsibility of this partially failed marriage.It seems that your husband doesn't change and still loves you. Remember, nobody forced you to select him in the very beginning. But if you don't love him any more, I just think it is not necessary to maintain the marriage reluctantly. It is not good to both of you.
-clinux(C/Linux);
2001-10-24{267}(#235551@0)
Luck you! I always thought I had 90% of the fault when a relationship failed, not just the romantic ones, also friendship ones too. Now I start to believe that... Morphis is wrong, I AM NOT THE ONE!!!
-ztech(ztech);
2001-10-24(#236083@0)
Morphis! This is Neo!
-dropoutinmiami(东北的饺子);
2001-10-24(#236094@0)
Think about what do you realy want, just choose one. Think about will you face the same situation like now after you marry this new guy.
-nick2000cn(nick2000cn);
2001-10-25(#236583@0)
As you have made the decision, I have some suggestions to you. In the future, you should forget "he", only concentrate on re-build the relationship with your husband. Don't give yourself any chance to look back.Otherwise, it will not work.
-clinux(C/Linux);
2001-10-25{28}(#236810@0)
i agree with you. choice is very important to her. if that guy still lives in her heart, the family will break late or soon.
-icegirl(ice);
2001-10-25(#237176@0)
yes,that is what i am worry about. i don't think it is a good decision
-milly(milly);
2001-10-25(#237275@0)
我认为，你可能会因为一个缺点而不选择他做你的丈夫，但因为同样一个缺点离开你的丈夫却不容易。设想一下重新组成家庭以后的情景，如果你的孩子不幸福，你的前丈夫不能自拔，你依然会很幸福吗？如果你认为一切no problem, go ahead.
-sealer(moonnight);
2001-10-25(#237004@0)